My Approach

Emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) s a structured, short-form approach to couples therapy, developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social, and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions. EFT for couples is the gold standard for empirically validated intervention in this field.

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How does it work? As an EFT-informed therapist, I guide couples through an initial de-escalation of conflict to allow for the identification of the couple's unique cycle, or "dance," and underlying emotions. Once safety is established, I help each partner engage with parts of self that they have hidden from themselves and/or from their partner. As each partner learns how to accept their discoveries about their partner, the couple can start to safely express their needs and desires, which facilitates the ability for couples to problem-solve old problems in new ways.